Apathy Isn’t Masculine: Men, Why Aren’t You Standing Up?

Let me begin by saying how truly honored I am to know and partner with some incredible men who do stand up. But we urgently need many more of you to step forward today—this is absolutely vital. Every day, society is filled with stories like the one below. There is an epidemic of darkness affecting everyone—not just women and children. It’s time for more men to rise and stand up.

I watched the 1st several minutes of this video (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZCJi0uNAhG4). And it demonstrated masculine leadership.

A sheriff stood in front of cameras and publicly addressed the child porn charges against one of his own officers.

He owned his leadership failure.

He acknowledged that his systems missed it.

And with raw, vulnerable honesty, he admitted the systemic failure due to the lack of people standing up with information and red flags.

Let that sink in.

He didn't hide behind politics.

He didn’t minimize the horror.

He stood as a man, stripped of ego, in full ownership.

Now, contrast that with the larger picture:

The Epstein victims still don't have full transparency and truth

Powerful men walk free

Victims are silenced

Justice is nowhere to be found

And "good men" stay quiet

Dominance has become a currency in U.S. culture—and it’s bought with silence, ego, and unchecked toxic masculinity. The masculine has been distorted into power-over, not power-with. And the feminine—our daughters, sisters, mothers, wives—continue to pay the price. (don't worry...the toxic feminine is rampant too and I will address at another time)

So let’s get real:

If you're not actively standing up to this system, you are standing in it.

If you're not using your voice,

If you’re not calling out what’s broken,

If you think being “nice” is enough…

Then you are helping uphold the very system is harming the people you love most with your apathy.

This is not about blame—it’s about choice.

You say you’re a good man?

Prove it.

WHAT DOES THAT LOOK LIKE?

Speaking the truth even when it’s uncomfortable

Taking radical ownership of what’s within your power for you AND humanity

Leading with vulnerability, honesty, and integrity

Naming where you failed, and choosing to do better every single moment

WHAT ELSE CAN YOU DO RIGHT NOW? (article name mentioned if you want to know more)

Audit your ego- “The Silent Assassin of Ego”- Every time you stay quiet for approval, perform for validation, or give your power away to avoid discomfort—your ego wins.

Embrace your full humanity- “Encoded Attraction”- A balanced man protects, provides, and leads—but also nurtures, feels, and listens. Rejecting your emotional depth isn’t strength. It’s fear.

Own your story.- Share the hard truths. Say the difficult thing. Practice radical honesty. Show up raw. Show up real. That’s how you create intimacy, leadership, and trust.

Dismantle false narratives- Liberate Yourself in 2025- What lies are you still living under? What cultural rules or community expectations are keeping you silent?

Take actions with integrity in every area of your life.

Hold other men accountable.

Lead by example every minute of every day with action.

Silence is complicity.

If you hear it, call it out.

If you see it, speak it.

If you’ve been quiet, change that—now.

WHAT IF YOU DON’T?

Then don’t be surprised when your daughter gets harassed,

When your wife is treated like she’s disposable,

When your mother is mistreated,

And the world you allowed

continues to degrade and dominate the feminine.

You cannot sit comfortably in your own masculinity while ignoring the pain your silence allows.

FINAL TRUTH:

If we want a better world, men must lead differently. STAND UP!

Burn the mask of toxic masculinity.

Learn how to feel.

Learn how to speak.

Learn how to stand in truth—even when it shakes everything you know.

We are not asking you to save us.

We are asking you to stand with us.

To lead with us.

To protect what is sacred: our safety, our rights, our humanity.

Demand change...today.

You cannot call yourself a good man… while staying silent in a broken system. And if this triggers you....good.....because then holding up the proverbial mirror did its job.

**Shoutout to ChatGPT for creative brainstorming and culling my articles for content that helped this message take shape.